Doubt is a habit and not a reality. We always know what we know and yet we have learned how to protect ourselves from what we know. Sounds silly but true.
Instead of standing in truth, we give doubt our focus. We have learned to say things such as, I believe, think, kind of, like, or other similar phrases when we speak of things that are our experience or knowing. All of these words have doubt in them and separate us from what we say.
Our being always knows the truth and reacts to it quite strongly and yet we avoid owning truth and keep ourselves separate and safe with these less powerful words.
We are afraid to say, “I know” or “I feel” and instead soften these words to be acceptable and free from attack. We know everything that is our experience and yet we have been taught to believe and think instead. Avoiding I, or us, or our truth has been something we learned as children and continued.
When people do not own what they say I see balloons above peoples’ heads with words in them as in cartoons. There is no reality and power in the conversation. In class or session I stop people when they speak this way and ask them to back up and say what they know without these other words.
Immediately they are speaking from a power place and feel so much better and clearer, often with a bit of fear mixed in. I tell them they are safe with me I will not challenge truth just illusion.
So trained are we in doubt that we speak from doubt instead of truth. If we buffer our words we feel like we are safe. As usual it is the opposite. When you speak truth gently and with authority there is nothing to question inside or outside.
When someone speaks in a way to prove themselves to self and others in conversations with lots of reasons, excuses and back ups they are also in doubt instead of comfortable truth.
When you are constantly questioning what you say, others will be quick to do the same. If you say I think, or believe, it keeps you on the fence. When you just speak what it is that you want to express without buffers, it is clear and open to be received by others.
And since you really do know, there is no need to care or worry if they do not agree or approve. You are not going to change what you know to please others, are you?
Stop practicing doubt and go for truth instead. It will feel amazing, allow you to be received and heard, and make your life so much easier.
Enjoy the journey,
Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!